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2777273u,26, from Tacoma,USA
Self : Words that describe me: Fair Considered Collaborative Responsive Sensible Diplomatic Contemplative Indulgent Rational A General Description of How I Interact with Others I am important. So are other people, especially if they are in trouble. I have a tender heart, but I know how to establish and keep personal boundaries. I am empathetic and compassionate, but I also believe that it's best if people solve their own problems and learn to take care of themselves, if they are able. I am deeply moved by the needs of others, but I know that if I don't take good care of myself, I'll wind up being of no use to anyone. So mine is a thoughtful compassion. I strive to be fair and sensible, taking care of others while also taking care of myself. When someone really is in trouble, I like to collaborate with them toward a solution; they do their part, I do mine. I consider carefully, and respond in a sensible way; they do their part, and together we move through the difficulty. I seldom act impulsively; rather, when a problem arises, I take my time to think through the situation. This contemplative quality usually means that I'll arrive at a diplomatic solution, one that's fair for the other person and also fair to me. It's frequently a win/win situation. Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward Me For people who are ruled by tender-hearted compassion, my more diplomatic response to problems might seem too cool, too focused on fairness and not filled enough with sympathy and selflessness. For them, when someone's life is on fire, what is needed is not collaboration but rescue. And the person who experiences their life on fire may resent the time I take to contemplate. I need you, and I need you NOW! This isn't about fairness, it's about the fire. All deliberate speed may seem too deliberate and not fast enough, either to the more compassionate or to people in genuine trouble. At the other end of the spectrum of compassion, those who believe people should take care of themselves may find even my thoughtful sympathies too soft. They expect people, themselves included, to work their own way out of trouble. They are convinced that the helping hand I lend just fosters dependence and is not good for the development of character, either in me or in the person I assist. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward Me Many people, perhaps the majority, will come to appreciate my balance as a compassionate person. The more they get to know me, the more they will admire my thoughtful compassion for others and its compliment in the sensible ways I take good care of myself. Those whom I help will appreciate the way I leave them with their dignity by expecting them to collaborate in their own rescue. Those who are more tender-hearted will find in me a balance they lack; when they've run out of energy because they fail to take good care of themselves, I will still have enough compassion left to lift others out of trouble. Even the tough-hearted, those who believe people should solve their own problems, might come to admire my tenderness which they don't find in themselves. So the people I help will be grateful, and the people who see my balance between self and others will admire me. Certainly, balanced is not bad at all as a way to be known among your friends. On the Openness Dimension I am: VERY CURIOUS Words that describe me: Imaginative Creative Intellectual Adventurous Unconventional Artistic Progressive Daring Inspired A General Description of How I Approach New Information and Experiences I am a very creative and imaginative person who is especially open to new ideas or new ways of thinking about old problems. I love to approach a conventional idea or a traditional way of doing things by walking around to the other side and explore it from a novel perspective. What's new is what interests me. Like an artist looking for a new way to see, I focus my imagination on envisioning ideas, events or problems in completely original ways. I am intellectually progressive, which means I like to think and feel my way into unexplored landscapes where I let my sense of intellectual adventure romp freely. Because I am so curious I can also be very teachable. I learn from personal and interpersonal experiences as well as from classrooms and textbooks. I crave new information, and toss and turn it in my vivid imagination. When I come across an idea from someone else or a thought in my own head that is particularly provocative or original, I light up. With wit and wisdom, Dr. Seuss describes me like this: Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try! Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward My Style of Thinking Not everyone will be thrilled by my adventurous mind. Many people are content with the ideas that have served them and their culture well, and with visions they've grown accustomed to of what is and is not true. They're not lit up at the prospect of moving out of their comfort zone. Others are afraid of new ways of thinking and creative ways of solving problems because they are somewhat fragile in the sense that they have trouble maintaining serenity in their current worlds and don't want someone, like me, for instance, pushing out the edges of their intellectual and cultural cosmos. So don't be surprised if my unconventional ideas sometimes get me criticized, or if some people walk away from the explorations of new territories of the mind that I find so exhilarating. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward Me Despite some negative responses to my style of thinking, many people will find my progressive thoughts and vivid imagination quite attractive. Some will find my openness to new ways of thinking and my willingness to explore what others shy away from a very compelling quality. Other creative souls will find in me a companion on the journey into the unknown, and will welcome the camaraderie. Conversations with them will be lively and innovative and will ignite my imagination, and theirs. Even some who are less curious than me will be impressed by my courage to think and believe what is for them unimaginable, and by my willingness to go on adventures of the mind that they would find dangerous or daunting. For these people I might become a mentor into the wilder side of thinking and believing, and nudge them toward the creative and progressive ideas that I find so interesting. RESPONSIVE Words that describe me: Open Accessible Reachable Candid Too Sensitive Unguarded A General Description of My Reactivity I am an emotional person. In some ways, we are all emotional; we feel joy, anger, sadness and fear; some of us more powerfully than others - and I more powerfully than most. My emotions are closer to the surface, and my feelings more obvious to me than is the case with most people. I've got my life in a good place, my dominant mood is upbeat, and unless life has been particularly trying for me, I greatly enjoy the richness and intensity of life that being so open with my emotions brings me. Sure there are times when my feelings come very close to the surface, and life becomes more complicated. At these times I may grow self-conscious, or feel a bit anxious. But all in all, I much prefer being open with my emotions, breathing in all that life offers, than shutting down any part of my emotional experience. Granted, there may be times when these emotions are hard but I realize that is part of life. And more often than not I feel enriched by my emotions, by my ability to be open to all that life brings me. I know that even when I have those times that get me down, there will be even more times when I see life in ways that others just can't. Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward Me Undoubtedly I have met some people who get uncomfortable being around me because my feelings are so close to the surface. They may keep a bit of distance, especially around any subject that might trigger an emotional topic they are uncomfortable with. Over time, they might even stay away from me more and more. I find I have decisions to make; do I temper my style for their comfort or do I hope they will find ways to become more comfortable with emotional expressions? Given the richness that seems to stem from my emotional life the most meaningful response is probably very apparent to me. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward Me I am a cherished companion for those friends who can handle emotions well. They will appreciate the candor with which I express even difficult feelings like anger and fear. My openness will make intimate conversations even more intimate, and make the connections between us as friends deeper and stronger. Some people who have trouble expressing their feelings might find in me a good example of how to be more vulnerable and more open. My willingness and ability to share my emotions could encourage them to share theirs, and invite them into ways of being friends that will help enrich their lives. FOCUSED Words that describe me: Deliberate Careful Regimented Determined Proactive Obliged Methodical Perfectionist Purposeful A General Description of How I Interact with Others Everybody knows they can count on me to do what I promise to do, be where I say I'll be on time and finish what I start. If I say I'll chair the committee, I'll come with an agenda and a clear outline of the tasks to be accomplished, give everyone a chance to speak their minds, and then call for a vote on each issue, schedule the next meeting, hand out assignments and adjourn at the appointed time. I like order and discipline, and use these to methodically accomplish whatever goals I have set for myself and for others. And I have a strong sense of obligation if I accept responsibility, I am proactive; I take it on with a single-minded commitment, as if I've pledged my allegiance to the assigned task. People know that they can depend on me. My personal life is also one of order and discipline. I am likely to have a pretty firm schedule, and to stick to it. I make time for my friends, but not at the expense of my work duties. I can be talkative and funny in social situations, but seldom out of control. In fact, I am pretty careful; I seldom, if ever, cross the line into impulsive behavior, and I am even careful to control how much of my inner world I disclose, even to my close friends. I keep myself in check because I don't want whatever mess might be inside me to leak out into conversation or make a mess of a relationship. There are things to accomplish in life, both at work and in my social world, and I don't want to let unnecessary clutter hamper my drive to get all of it done, and done well. Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward Me It's not hard to imagine one of my friends or colleagues saying, probably under their breath, Just once I wish he'd be late to something, or wear the wrong clothes, or trip over his own feet. He seem so tightly put together that, just once, I'd like to see him explode, in laughter or anger or . . . anything. In part, they may be envious. I get so much done, and done so well, that they might feel they never measure up. My discipline and sense of duty put them to shame. But it may also be that they sense that beneath that single-minded and orderly demeanor of mine is a complex and sometimes complicated person whom they'd like to know, not so they can make fun of me but so they can share their perplexed humanity with me and get me to share my complexity with them. They might wish I were less cautious, and therefore, more accessible to their friendship. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward Me If we want something done, we know whom to call. Most of my friends and colleagues will learn to count on me, and they will appreciate me for this reliability. If they get off track in a work situation, they'll turn to me because they know I've got the goal clearly in view and I知 moving toward it with that characteristic discipline of mine. I'll help get them back on track. If they need a personal friend to count on, they know I'll show up when I say I'll be there, dig in to whatever the common task is, whether it's planning a party, organizing the garage, or working through a financial mess, and see it through to completion. For anyone in trouble, I am the proverbial friend in need. Many of my friends will see me as an example that they seek to emulate. When they get disorderly or disorganized, they can watch how I live and work, and find in me a mentor in self-discipline. They might well admire not just my ability to get to the goal or my single-minded drive, but also the underlying quality of my character; they will see my sense of duty to myself, to life's tasks, and to my friendships, and admire and imitate these qualities in me. My focused life will be a guide to them when they get themselves so out of focus that they don't know where they're going. OUTGOING Words that describe me: Friendly Gregarious Full of Life Unreserved Kindhearted Talkative Emotional Spontaneous Vigorous A General Description of How I Interact with Others People light me up. In conversations, planning meetings or almost any social situation, I bring my energy and my friendly, outgoing personality into these engagements with other people, and I come away pumped up. I can hardly wait for the next event, as long as other people will be there. And I知 good at it. I know how to communicate. I listen well, the first rule of good communication, and then, when it's my turn, I talk vigorously and with animation; in my uninhibited way I give all that I've got to the encounter. In situations where I feel very safe, when I know and trust the people I知 with, I can be very kindhearted and unrestrained. I let my affection for and pleasure in being with others flow freely. I知 wide open and when I get back this same kind of unrestrained warmth, I am deeply satisfied. Because I am so friendly and full of life, these are among my favorite moments. Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward Me As much as I like being with other people not everyone will like being with me. Hard to believe, but my gregarious and warm manner is not everyone's cup of tea. Some people are more cautious than me in personal encounters; others think the work place should be more formal, more impersonal than is comfortable for me. Still others, who may want more of the spotlight, will find I am too much to compete with once I get my lively and outgoing self in motion. Here's another word of caution. I've been at this warm and open way of relating for a while, but for some people it's a brand new experience. They may be protecting something inside themselves, some fear or guilt or shame, or some private part of their story that they're not yet ready to share. My openness might threaten them, and they'll take a step back and be reluctant the next time to engage me in the kind of exchange I find so easy and satisfying but they find so dangerous. Positive Responses Others May Have Toward Me Many people, most probably, will be glad to be in the room I知 in. At work I make the environment livelier and the banter more interesting, so the time moves swiftly and the experience is a happier one. At home I keep everyone connected because I engage each of them in the conversational action, and as a result they are more connected as well with one another. I make home a warmer and more interesting place for everyone who lives there. I might also be helpful to some people. There are those who need to talk but aren't very good at it. They don't know how to begin the kind of conversation that would allow them to share whatever is in their personal stories that they'd like or need to talk about. I could make that easier for them with my way with words. Some people just need an example and a little encouragement to come out of their shell and get into the greater fun and personal connectedness that will make their lives so much more satisfying. Again, I might be just the right person to make that happen for them. So almost everyone will be glad to be with me, I make life more interesting for those I live and work with, and I could help some of your friends who need just a little encouragement to open up and find in themselves the kinds of energetic and warm connections that I thrive on. Not that I am a pushover; in fact, I am often quite assertive. In taking care of myself I also make sure that others are engaged and energized.
Interests : Well, I like learning new things, reading, watching the news, going to the movies and listening to music during leisure time. I love it when I find something interesting and can become so immersed in it that I can't stop thinking about it until I've figured it out or understand it. I love listening to music more and more, because each and every song can draw me in to a different scenario that I can play out in my mind. It's like I can imagine myself in the situations that the songs seem to describe. I especially do this with those ambiguous songs that don't have a particular meaning, so I just dream up whatever I want the song to portray. It helps me get away. Everyone needs stuff like that sometimes. It's just my little version of escapism... the kind that's actually safe to do.
Message to you : Love is like a cloud... love is like a dream... love is 1 word and everything in between... love is
Height : 180cm,5,11" Weight : 67kg,148lbs
Nationality : USA Ethnicity : White Caucasian
Marital Status : Divorced Religion : No religion
Education : College Work : Senior Property Manager
Primary Language : English English Ability : Fluent
Languages : English
Eyes : Hazel Hair : Brown
Children : 1 ,Other
Living : I,live alone
Birth Date : 1982-04-07 Last Online : 2008-10-05
Western Sign : Aries Chinese Sign : Dog
Blood Type : A+ Appearance : Average
Drink : Occasionaly Smoke : Yes
Seeking For
My Match : Honest communication is top priority for me. I want a woman who answers questions honestly, and perhaps even volunteers information. I want a woman who confidently asks for her wants and needs to be met. I want a woman who can see the truth and tell it like it is while communicating with kindness. I want a woman to choose me out of want rather than out of desperation -- either materially or emotionally. I need to be wanted and needed by my partner, but I want my partner to have a separate identity. I want a woman who is active and independent, who has her own friends and interests. On the other hand, I treasure time to spend with a loving partner. I want no manipulation of any kind. I do not want to read my partner's mind or try to interpret signals. I do not want to be forced to move faster in a relationship than I am ready for. I do not want to be manipulated into taking all the blame for things gone wrong. I do not want to be on the receiving end of game playing. I want a partner who can laugh at herself and who has courage and strength. I want a woman who can see her part in relationship dynamics and own it. She has to be emotionally stable. I want a woman who is developing herself personally, and who takes responsibility for her emotional experience. Fidelity is an absolute must. In fact, I want a woman who does not have a roaming eye and who can wholeheartedly commit to the relationship. I define commitment as fidelity plus the willingness to work on the relationship -- even when the going gets tough.

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